This is a question I’ve talked about a little before but would like your feedback.
How do you work the 12 Steps of Recovery?
I’ve seen this quote a few times:
“It is both good and important that some work be done for recovery each day.”
Is it true that if I’m not working the steps each day, that I’m not really in real recovery?
What does “working the steps” really mean?
How can I work the steps effectively?
Different Methods to Working the 12 Steps
Here are a few things I’ve tried:
- Got a sponsor from the LDS ARP group
- This was the first thing I did back in 2008
- This sponsor helped me stay accountable
- We met once a week in person
- We talked on the phone occasionally
- I believe I answered questions from the LDS manual
- There was a Step 4 spreadsheet that he had used that helped provide structure
- I emailed him each night with a “Gratitude Journal”
- Unfortunately, I stopped working the steps at Step 9, thinking I had things figured out…
- Signed up for ARPSupport.org
- This program is great, but it’s definitely not for everyone
- There is a strict schedule of working the steps in 90 days
- Each day, you answers questions pertaining to the step you’re on
- The questions are based off of the LDS ARP Support manual, but dig deeper
- If you have a slip or relapse, you are required to start over on the steps
- If you have a slip or relapse, often your sponsor is required to drop you and you start over with someone new
- I feel this program is for those who have tried all other options and this is a last resort: there has to be a level of commitment to keeping the rules set by this program
- Best thing about this program: STRUCTURE & ACCOUNTABILITY
- Working them on my own
- I don’t think this is very effective: too little accountability
- There’s no structure either
- “If I want to work fast – work alone. If I want to work long – work with someone else.” I heard this quote at UCAP regarding recovery. Fast = Working alone, it won’t last very long. Long = Working with a sponsor; recovery will be much more solid.
- Working the Steps with a sponsor from SAL
- I like this concept, but don’t know about the structure – is there a structure?
- Should I follow the Step Into Action or…?
- Should we set a calendar and hold one another accountable?
- Are there any requirements or commitments?
I know that working the 12 steps of recovery is crucial to long-term sobriety and recovery from this addiction.
I look forward to your feedback and experience.