March was the first month we started reaching out to others in the Spanish Fork SAL group via email and text, asking questions, and then posting responses and experiences on this site.
I got a few comments, a few responses, and, overall, I felt it was helpful.
Questions I have for the group:
- How often should we post a new discussion?
- Once a week
- Every few days
- Every other week
- What’s the best way to communicate with the group?
- Start via email, then on site
- Start via text, then on site
- Just via email
- Just via text
- Are there topics or questions that you’d like to discuss?
Leave comments below with your answers to these questions.
Here’s a quick summary of the discussion topics we had in March.
- March 1: What books about addiction recovery do you recommend?
- March 6: What are the best articles you’ve read about sexual addiction recovery?
- March 8: How can I deal with negative emotions in a positive way?
- March 9: Working the 12 Steps of recovery
- March 10: Why Service in Addiction Recovery?
- March 16: What Do I Need to Surrender Today?
- March 17: Top Takeaways from UCAP Conference 2016
- March 21: What does it take to recover from sexual addiction?
- March 23: How is your life right now in this very moment?
- March 28: Discussion – How to Help Teens with Pornography Addiction
- March 29: The Real Recovery Relationship
What I’ve learned this month, or even today, is that it’s ok not to know everything. It’s ok to have questions. In fact, it’s probably better to NOT think I know everything because I don’t and I never will.
Asking questions is the way to come to know the things that are most important.
I hope that, if this ongoing group discussion continues, that more questions will come, more comments will come, and that we can all be lifted together and live in recovery one day at a time.
I like to text or email, and I would like to get emails anytime/ whenever. I think we should post new discussions at least once a week, they are very helpful.
Thanks Devin. I appreciate the feedback. I’ll continue to text/email you and will aim for at least once a week.
If you have questions, experiences, or topics you’d like discussed, please submit them and we’ll get them posted.
This question about how to deal with teenagers and pornography addiction got a lot of response.
I like the weekly question and replying on site although I’m flexible. Think this is a great idea.
Thanks Brad. What I’ll do for now is send a discussion topic each Monday via email and text. Then if you can comment here, great. If you comment via text or email, that’s ok too – but ideally you comment here so all can see what we’re talking about.
See ya soon.
I am happy with discussions being posted whenever. I have actually found that it is nice to read some of what people have been saying in conjunction with my daily step work.
Thanks Cameron. You’ve been the best at sharing insights and thoughts on the topics. It’s really helpful to hear other people’s perspectives. I’m grateful to have friends like you who are committed to recovery and healing.
Hope to see you tomorrow.
No problem, commenting is easy, put forth the effort to run the web page is a lot more work so thank you. I will be there tomorrow, I have been out of town the last two weeks and I’ve been bummed that I’m not been there on Saturdays see you tomorrow.
Good to see you Cameron. Thanks for your comments and feedback. Are there any questions you have or topics you’d like to discuss as a group?
I think emails and the website work best for me and I like the idea of a topic per week. Is there a way we could incorporate the weekly discussion topic into our meeting, or is it best to have a discussion outside of the meeting? Not sure that I feel strongly either way, just an idea to think about.
Other ideas for discussions –
Benefits of having a sponsor and also being a sponsor to others.
Pick a recovery book we can read together outside of our meetings and discuss via email/discussion board.
How to do a proper check-in with your spouse (I know I need help with this one).
Thanks Sean. I got similar feedback at the meeting this last Saturday: to keep the emails/texts going, post on the website, and having a topic per week.
I think if I get topics like what you proposed, I’ll schedule them out so that every Monday, we have a discussion topic. If it goes well and we get a lot of feedback and interaction, we can propose at group conscience that we have a few minutes to discuss in the meeting. The hard thing about that is, if there are new people or people that aren’t part of the weekly discussion, they may feel left out – although we’ll be talking about questions that they may have as well.
I’ve added your three suggestions for topic study to the list and will get them ready to discuss in upcoming weeks.
A question I have is: What is the most appropriate and helpful way to reach out to others during the week? Do most of you text or talk on the phone? Either way, I’m never quite sure what to say. Ideas?
For me, text always works best first. Then, if I really need to talk, I can ask when a good time would be to talk. If my sponsor isn’t available to talk, I’ll reach out to others via text on my list and see if someone can talk.
For bigger triggers (not really sure how to classify), I feel that talking it out on the phone is the best option.
Hope this helps.