From “Love You, Hate Porn”:
The practice of regularly identifying and expressing feelings is a great way for us to deepen our awareness of emotions. As an experiment, for the next couple of weeks use the canned statements below to direct your attention to subtle feelings and prime discussions with your spouse…
If you’re not ready to check in with your spouse, start by writing out your responses [below]. Simply read the following incomplete sentences and fill in the blanks. The wording of the sentences is designed to help you become more accepting of the entire range of your feelings and own the kind of feelings that you might usually suppress, reject, or dismiss. You want to develop the ability to come to terms with all your feelings, not just the ones you view as acceptable or mature.