I don’t know what to do.
I had a fun weekend with Caleb at Webelos Woods. We earned the following pins:
- Shooting Sports
I was so surprised about how much Caleb knew about geology. He could have probably taught the class.
We had a really fun time: the weather was perfect, we hiked up a little hill, camping out was great, and Caleb was respectful and helpful overall.
All the boys his age seem to be the same – loud, a bit obnoxious, and wanting to talk a lot of the time. They also try to listen in to adult’s conversation and want to be a part of that too.
Anyway, it was fun to be there and I’m proud to be his dad.
When I got home, I could tell right away that Beck had been having a hard time since I left (or even before that).
I’m not really sure what to do. She shared her journal with me today, which I really appreciate, and I don’t know what the solution is or needs to be.
The bottom line is that my parents aren’t aware at all of how they act and the effect it has on others, especially those directly around them.
My parents bicker and criticize a lot.
My parents are quick to point out the inadequacies of others.
My parents are notorious for “ceaseless pin-pricking.”
My parents don’t seem to recognize, at least very much, the opinions of others.
My parents think their way is the only right way to do things.
My parents share their opinions in the form of passive-aggressive questions.
My parents blame others.
My parents shame and ridicule.
My parents don’t understand what it means to be a guest in someone else’s home.
My parents make comments that are unnecessary.
My parents can’t just stay out of our business.
My parents put a lot of pressure on others to conform to their way of doing things.
My parents are not really open to feedback.
My parents don’t seem to ever think about what others around them are feeling.
My parents don’t realize that Becky and I are more than capable of running our family without their “help” and opinions.
Those are a few things that come to mind.
I’m not sure how to help the situation. I’m not sure what to do.
I can feel how hard it is on Becky and see that it’s not a situation that we can just brush under the rug.
I don’t know how to help Becky.
I don’t know what to tell my parents.
I feel strongly that something has to change or it will continue to get worse.
My parents have to realize that this isn’t their home and that this isn’t their family. They have to realize that there are boundaries that can’t be crossed without affecting everyone around them.
My marriage and relationship with Becky is more important than my relationship with my parents. My relationship with Heavenly Father is crucial to how I deal with this situation. I have to be willing to ask Him for help and have faith that He will give me answers and direction at the best time. I have to be open to His promptings and direction and be actively listening and searching.
Are there any examples of how to deal with this in the scriptures?
Are there any stories I can read about that will help me relate or learn?
What can be done?