Well, it appears my 6 year career at PR has come to an end.
Yesterday I took the Employee Agreement to Dane and told him I’d talked it over with an attorney and was advised not to sign it due to the 18 month restriction post employment. I told him if they were willing to pay me substantially more and guarantee work except for a firing for cause I would sign it (this was all recommendation of the attorney). The attorney, Josh, also recommended I contact the Utah Labor Commission and get their advice.
Dane said he’d have to talk with the other executives but he thought this would mean voluntary or involuntary termination.
What I feel good about is that I tried my best to be honest, upfront, and straight forward throughout the whole process. I really want to do what’s right.
I realize I made a few mistakes:
- That I didn’t reveal the new ET business with the company
- That I didn’t talk with Dane about the Ben experience
- That I gave the eBook to Bobbi, knowing that I would get a commission on that sale
- That I didn’t just resign earlier and not have to go through all this drama
Other than that, I don’t feel like I would do anything different. I made efforts to communicate with Dane and always felt guarded based on his reactions to things I proposed. I think that was the main reason I didn’t take any of these issues or ideas to him – for fear he would blow things out of proportion.
So, now I’ll go in on Monday as usual and then, in the afternoon, have a meeting with HR.
Best case scenario would be that I’m allowed to coach out the students I have and train the new DL. Also that I would be able to continue teaching webinars indefinitely. Worst case scenario is that the terminate me on Monday with no further interaction. I can’t see that happening but you never know.
One thing I’m really grateful for – that Becky is supportive and excited about the direction we’re going. This morning she wrote out a “Plan of Attack” and expectations she has for the decision. Just that communication is so helpful for me. Here’s the list:
Honey-Do List for Becky’s end of Self-Employment Adventure
- Re-format family budget: show income from MM & HS (keep PR on there—webinars?), recheck income/expense sheet to verify accuracy
- Create document with Becky setting expectations & systems for transferring funds, paying tithing, etc.
- Create schedule with Becky & stick to it with self-discipline
- Move office with Becky – DONE
- Keep office CLEAN 🙂
- Get Becky self-employment insurance options/info so we can make decisions and get coverage ASAP
- Make money (about $3,000/month as initial goal?)
- Get self out of bed each morning with energy and enthusiasm
- Work efficiently—no dinking around 🙂 — work with focus
If you can agree to do these things, then I promise to:
- Do a weekly evaluation of our budget
- Pay our bills & handle our finances
- Be extremely thrifty to make our budget work
- Not get into your bidness about how you are going to make money
- Not stress you out by getting anxious & freaking out
- Listen without giving suggestions unless asked for them
- Keep the kids away from you during your working hours
I’m so grateful for an amazing wife who supports me and is my best friend.
Becky told me she was reading 2 Nephi 5 last night and felt like it was an answer to some of her prayers too. It talks about Nephi leaving his brothers and establishing his own land.
As I read it, I feel like the best approach on Monday will be to simply say that I’m going to pursue CO, HS, AM and maintain the accounts I’ve been working with for MM. The more I can leave on good terms, the better.
Some of the scriptures that stick out in 2 Nephi 5:
1 Behold, it came to pass that I, Nephi, did cry much unto the Lord my God, because of the aanger of my brethren.
2 But behold, their aanger did increase against me, insomuch that they did seek to take away my life.3 Yea, they did murmur against me, saying: Our younger brother thinks to arule over us; and we have had much trial because of him; wherefore, now let us slay him, that we may not be afflicted more because of his words. For behold, we will not have him to be our ruler; for it belongs unto us, who are the elder brethren, to brule over this people.
6 Wherefore, it came to pass that I, Nephi, did take my family, and also aZoram and his family, and Sam, mine elder brother and his family, and Jacob and Joseph, my younger brethren, and also my sisters, and all those who would go with me. And all those who would go with me were those who believed in the bwarnings and the revelations of God; wherefore, they did hearken unto my words.
7 And we did take our tents and whatsoever things were possible for us, and did journey in the wilderness for the space of many days. And after we had journeyed for the space of many days we did pitch our tents.
I feel like I have been crying much unto the Lord. I feel like I could be praying even more.
I feel like I have been “warned…that I should depart (see 2 Nephi 10:20 – the answer I got when I went to the temple)
I just want to be their friends. I want to continue the relationship as much as possible. I want to be appreciative but move on. I don’t want to deal with legal battles or anything that would cause more stress.
I’m grateful for this time I’ve made this morning to write out my feelings and study the word of God.