I recently finished a book titled “The 7-Day Christian” by Brad Wilcox. Although the overall topic of the book is not about sexual addiction recovery, many of his points resonated with me. From surrender, to gratitude, to living a “new normal,” I really felt like the book was speaking to me.
One quote that really stuck out was this:
Previously in my life, every diet or exercise program had been an event – a period through which I would grit my teeth and endure until I could get back to normal life. This attitude provided a watery foundation, and I slipped and slid all over the place. This time, God helped me find dry land. My work with [my trainer] was not a program or event, but a lifestyle change. I was in this for the long haul. I was not starting a program with a beginning, precise guidelines, and an end; I was committing to a change that — through all the ups and downs — was not going to be abandoned or forgotten. This long-term perspective was firm ground. (bold added for emphasis)
The question it brought to the surface for me:
When Does Addiction Recovery Work End?
One thing that really stuck out to me about Elizabeth Smart’s comments at the UCAP conference last year was that, when she got back from being kidnapped, she wanted to just go back to the way things were. But she couldn’t. Things were different and she had to live a “new normal.”
I feel the same way in recovery. I have to live a new normal. I can’t continue to do the same things I’ve always done. I can’t continue to deal with problems and issues the way I have in the past.
In a comment from Steven a few weeks ago, I feel he answered the question pretty straightforwardly.
– I have learned that recovery is a journey not an event.
– I have learned that each time I work a step I gain new insights…why is this so? Because I am not in the same place as I was the first time through.
– I recognize that I will never come to the place that says…finish line, you have graduated; lust will no longer be toxic for you. Go on with the rest of your life. (bold added for emphasis)
Steven shares his hope about the progressive victory as well:
Thus, progressive victory over lust is experiencing physical, emotional and spiritual healing. It takes all of my heart; time, work, willingness and my determined efforts to set proper boundaries to stay safe. It is a blessing that comes from God! Then I experience the release from the obsession to lust…I gain freedom. Lust no longer is at the forefront of my life. My progress is no longer damned.
What are your thoughts?
Does recovery work “end” at some point? Why or why not?
Can you eventually go back to “normal life?”
Is it real to think that one day you will overcome the addiction once and for all?
What is YOUR new normal?
Thanks for your feedback.