March was the first month we started reaching out to others in the Spanish Fork SAL group via email and text, asking questions, and then posting responses and experiences on this site. I got a few comments, a few responses, and, overall, I felt it was helpful. Questions I have for the group: How often should […]
Archives for March 2016
How to Prepare for General Conference as an Addict
What am I going to do today to prepare for General Conference as an addict? I’m not sure the preparation is much different than for a “normal” person, but where I’m trying to live a new normal, maybe there are things I should try differently. When I went to LDS.org, this caption seemed to be an […]
The Real Recovery Relationship – Part 3
I wasn’t prepared to write a part 3 of this post, but as I read back on what I’d come up with so far, I felt it wasn’t done with the Real Recovery Relationship. Real Addiction Recovery Equation Relationship = Awareness + Honesty + Sobriety + Recovery Actions… (I’ve updated the name to the Real Recovery Relationship: […]
Discussion: Helping Teens with Pornography Addiction
This question came in from one of the guys in our group about helping teens with pornography addiction: I’d really like to hear anything about how teens are coping with this addiction. I have a 14-year-old who got hooked a year ago and he’s slowly working out of it with me, but there is no 12-step […]
The Real Addiction Recovery Equation – Part 2
I wrote the other day about the Real Addiction Recovery Equation = Awareness + Honesty + Sobriety + Recovery Actions… The Addiction Recovery Relationship, which I refer to all the time, is A (negative emotions) leads to B (lust), which leads to C (sexually acting out). As I think about the equation I’ve made thus […]
Pain for Pain – What does that mean?
When I had my negative emotion experience yesterday with Becky and Caleb, I talked to my sponsor. He mentioned that he’s found that he has the habit of what I’m going to call “pain for pain.” It means that when he feels he’s been hurt or mistreated, his addict mindset is that he has to […]
Feelings of Disrespect & How to Cope Better
I’m not very happy right now. A week or so ago, Becky and I set a boundary that the kids don’t go over to friends’ houses after dinner on school nights. We made that boundary because of the feeling we had in our home when they came home and were entitled, bratty, and disobedient. Tonight […]
How is your life right now in this very moment?
I’m studying Rhyll Croshaw’s book “What Can I Do About Him Me?” today and the title question really hit me: “How is your life right now in this very moment?” One day at a time is a common cliche in recovery meetings. But is it really a cliche? Or is living in the moment, one […]
How to Apply the Challenge to “Learn of Me”
What should I study about today? This is the question that came to mind as I was praying. As I thought about different things to study, one thing came to mind: the First Presidency Message. So, I’m headed to LDS.org now to check it out. It’s titled, “Learn of Me.” When I think of that phrase, what […]
What does it take to recover from sexual addiction?
2nd Meeting with Adam Moore Today was my second official meeting with Adam Moore by myself. We discussed the assignment he’d given me from our last meeting – make a list of the messages I’ve received from my parents throughout my life. As we read through the messages I’d written down, he just chuckled – […]