I just got off the phone with my sponsee and we talked about some of the red-flags I felt as I read his work. I don’t want it to be personal, but I have to call it how I see it. I hope we can continue to work together and that he understands where I’m […]
Archives for January 2016
Why No Dating or Courting During the 90 Day Program
The first thing I’ll remind myself of as I do this study is that I have to row my own boat. I can’t worry too much about sponsees, what they are going through, and how I can “fix” them or teach them why I feel they might be off. What’s concerning to me, however, is how […]
Writing About Negative Emotions is Surrendering to God
I feel emotionally drained. I think it all started when my parents were here for almost a week. Not only are there feelings and emotions that I bury with them here (which I’ll try to write about in a bit), but it also effects how I interact with Becky – I worry about what they […]
Reflecting on the Lord, Is It I Talk by President Uchtdorf
Becky and I had a good talk last night. She shared her journal with me, which was so helpful to understand what she was feeling, why things were so tough, and what my part was in the the trauma triggers. I was so grateful she shared it. It really helped me look in the mirror, […]
Addictive Behaviors vs. Recovery Behaviors
Actions are a state of doing, where behaviors are a state of being. Questions I’d like to think about today: Why is it important to think about addictive behaviors and addictive actions? Isn’t it the action that I need to flee from? What do my behaviors have to do with acting out in my addiction? […]
Dealing with My Negative Emotions
I’m up here waiting to go back out on the hill at Snowbird with Brad Parker and Dave Springer. Unfortunately, we are stuck in the condo due to avalanches and blizzards. I feel pretty sick to my stomach for the conversation that happened last night with Becky and me. We were talking about our date […]
The ABC’s of Addiction Recovery
A crazy Monday that’s also a holiday AND my parents are here… But, I’m trying to take things one step at a time, do what I need to do, and live in recovery. Yesterday I started working with a new sponsee, Daniel, from my SAL group. He’s a nice guy and seems to be really […]
How Do I Understand the Will of God for Me?
I’m feeling a little stress this morning. A La Mode, NWOUT, Vision, The U, the sponsorship for the U, what God’s will is for me at this point in my career, and I’m not feeling good physically – all these are contributing to the stress. Becky and I had a great night last night and […]
How Keeping the Commandments Leads to True Happiness
When I went to LDS.org this morning to get some ideas on what to study, this talk really stuck out: “Keep the Commandments” by President Monson. As I started reading, this quote is exactly what recovery and submitting my will to God’s is: He who created us and who loves us perfectly knows just how […]
Understanding Effective Sponsorship & Serving Two Masters
The other day, I lost a sponsee to a relapse and it’s been really hard. Not only are we really good friends, but I feel we have a lot in common and I feel he has been making great progress. I went to meeting last night and sat across from both my sponsees and, ironically, […]
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