Last night I had a good conversation with a sponsee about how we want to work Step 1. This isn’t a sponsee in the ARP Support program, so we are trying to put some things together. Here are some initial ideas: We read the Step 1 chapter and take notes, answer questions, write out feelings, […]
Archives for March 2016
Top Takeaways from UCAP Conference 2016
I had the chance last Saturday to go to my 2nd UCAP Conference (Utah Coalition Against Pornography). I can honestly say that my 2nd one was much better for me than the first: I wasn’t as nervous who I would see, both my wife and I are working our own recovery, and I felt we […]
What Do I Need to Surrender Today?
What do I need to surrender? Tonight was a tough night. I felt stress about Scouts and how the fundraiser was going to go. C and I hadn’t really even talked about it, which stressed me out. I had expectations. I felt like there were expectations on me. I felt stress that it wouldn’t work […]
The Effects of Addiction in the Book of Mormon
The reading we did last night in the Book of Mormon stood out to me; I wanted to study it more and reflect on how it applies to my life. Alma and Amulek have been talking to the people about their sins and calling them out. Zeezrom, a lawyer who’s job it’s been to stir […]
A Day of Surrender from Negative Emotions
I’m just going to write right now. Not sure it will all make sense but I want to get it out and not stuff it, push it on, or blame. My parents are here again… No triggers last night when we got home from UCAP to speak of. A few small triggers today at Church […]
Why Service in Addiction Recovery?
Yesterday was a good day for service in addiction recovery. I reached out to a lot of the guys, shared my thoughts on the question about working the 12 steps of recovery after having gone through them once, and chatted with a few guys directly via text and email. It felt good and I was […]
How Should I Deal with Triggering Situations in Recovery?
As recovering addicts, we are still going to be faced with triggers, temptations, and moments of frustration – both from negative emotional triggers and from lust triggers. Here’s an email I shared with a sponsee that explains some of my thoughts about dealing with triggers in the moment: Hey, There are days that are harder […]
Discussion: Working the 12 Steps of Recovery
Question: How do I work the steps of recovery after I’ve gone through them with a sponsor? Working the 12 Steps of Recovery after having been through it once with my sponsor has been a question I’ve had for quite some time. I have worked the 12 steps with a sponsor in the 90 day ARP […]
Discussion: How can I deal with negative emotions in a positive way?
In the ebook, “Sitting in a Rowboat Throwing Marbles at a Battleship,” it talks about the Addiction Recovery Relationship: A => B and B => C Debilitating negative emotions Lust Sexually acting out A leads to B and the B leads to C. I started going to recovery meetings back in 2007 when I finally […]
What are the best articles you’ve read about sexual addiction recovery?
In a prior discussion, we talked about some of the books that are great about addiction recovery. Today I’d like to discuss articles that you’ve read about recovery that really struck home. Some of the topics that should be considered: Surrender Submitting one’s will to God Living one day at a time Dealing with negative […]
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