I am so grateful for the comments we got yesterday on how to work the 12 Steps of Recovery. They were insightful and made me think about how I’m living my own recovery one day at a time. Included in the comments was a list of musts if I want to live in true recovery […]
Discussion: How do you work the 12 Steps of Recovery?
This is a question I’ve talked about a little before but would like your feedback. How do you work the 12 Steps of Recovery? I’ve seen this quote a few times: “It is both good and important that some work be done for recovery each day.” Is it true that if I’m not working the steps […]
Surrendering Feelings – What’s My Part?
Feelings right now after good meeting and then reading Becky’s email: I feel hurt. I feel frustrated. I feel annoyed. I feel like I can’t do enough in my wife’s eyes. I hate this feeling because it was the justification mechanism in the past. I feel that Becky needs to work her own recovery and […]
March 2016 Summary – Spanish Fork SAL group
March was the first month we started reaching out to others in the Spanish Fork SAL group via email and text, asking questions, and then posting responses and experiences on this site. I got a few comments, a few responses, and, overall, I felt it was helpful. Questions I have for the group: How often should […]
The Real Recovery Relationship – Part 3
I wasn’t prepared to write a part 3 of this post, but as I read back on what I’d come up with so far, I felt it wasn’t done with the Real Recovery Relationship. Real Addiction Recovery Equation Relationship = Awareness + Honesty + Sobriety + Recovery Actions… (I’ve updated the name to the Real Recovery Relationship: […]
Discussion: Helping Teens with Pornography Addiction
This question came in from one of the guys in our group about helping teens with pornography addiction: I’d really like to hear anything about how teens are coping with this addiction. I have a 14-year-old who got hooked a year ago and he’s slowly working out of it with me, but there is no 12-step […]
The Real Addiction Recovery Equation – Part 2
I wrote the other day about the Real Addiction Recovery Equation = Awareness + Honesty + Sobriety + Recovery Actions… The Addiction Recovery Relationship, which I refer to all the time, is A (negative emotions) leads to B (lust), which leads to C (sexually acting out). As I think about the equation I’ve made thus […]
Pain for Pain – What does that mean?
When I had my negative emotion experience yesterday with Becky and Caleb, I talked to my sponsor. He mentioned that he’s found that he has the habit of what I’m going to call “pain for pain.” It means that when he feels he’s been hurt or mistreated, his addict mindset is that he has to […]
Feelings of Disrespect & How to Cope Better
I’m not very happy right now. A week or so ago, Becky and I set a boundary that the kids don’t go over to friends’ houses after dinner on school nights. We made that boundary because of the feeling we had in our home when they came home and were entitled, bratty, and disobedient. Tonight […]
How is your life right now in this very moment?
I’m studying Rhyll Croshaw’s book “What Can I Do About Him Me?” today and the title question really hit me: “How is your life right now in this very moment?” One day at a time is a common cliche in recovery meetings. But is it really a cliche? Or is living in the moment, one […]
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